Why can I not see or delete exactly what my assistant remembers about me?

Every major AI assistant with persistent memory stores facts about users across sessions, but the user-facing interface is a thin list of summaries, not an auditable log. There is no standard way to inspect which specific claim was inferred, when it was written, what triggered it, or whether it has been shared with retrieval pipelines. When a user asks the assistant to forget something, the delete operation is opaque. The underlying vector store may retain embeddings, the conversation log may be subpoenaed, and there is no cryptographic proof that deletion was complete. The IAPP and the EU AI Act both call for auditable memory with callable deletion evidence, but no product ships that today.